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Pain, Pleasure & The Pelvis

Updated: Jun 18, 2022

Key lessons from personal training, pain-free movement, yoga, belly dance, and reproductive health.



If we don't understand how the body works, how do we know whether it is working properly or not? What is normal? When I was in my 20's, after having a child of my own and plenty of experience in the realm of sex, I was practicing for my midwifery skills exams. I was surprised with how little I actually knew about my own body. As the years passed, I forgot that I knew these things and assumed that others did understand the intricacies and importance of the pelvis as a bowl. As far as knowing whether things are normal or not, as long as everything "feels fine" you probably don't really think about it or consider it how your pelvis is functioning. But when the pain starts, that's when you have no choice but to pull in all the tools and maybe even reach out for help.

Now, working closely with individuals from all walks of life, I see how actually most people are not really sure what is going on down there. There are patterns that are helpful and some that are harmful. What happens at the pelvis affects everything below and above it. Every joint below and above, muscles surrounding it, and even the throat and breath also affects the pelvis. You can have pain at the tail bone in the back, or the pubic arch in the front, at the back in the hips where the spine and sacrum meet or at the crest of your magic powerful bowl that your spine sits on. It even controls neck and head movement.


Key lessons from the Pelvis:


1.The Hips are the crossroads of spine and legs, upper body and lower body. The glutes are their King, the transverse abdominals (TVA) are their Queen and what happens or doesn't at glutes and TVA will absolutely determine pelvic and back health. Let's say the pelvic floor muscles are the Earth that the Queen and King work with, stand on, and preside over. And for the most part, you don't want the earth to be like pavement or concrete.


2. It moves with the chest and neck. Pelvis, head, and chest move together. Consider your heart an Alter to God. Allow for your chest to lift high. Not necessarily out but high towards the heavens: strong, open, courageous, and warm. Now connect it to the EARTH. Your breath is the key to doing so. Having strong rhomboids, lower traps, and serratus anterior muscles at the back keeps this natural. This is shoulder girdle stability. The golden strands weaving these all together are your breath, your intentions, and connection to the Crowned Queen-TVA and other working muscles.